Welcome to a collection of insightful and thought-provoking quotes by Pamela Druckerman, a renowned journalist, author, and cultural commentator. Through her keen observations and astute analysis, Druckerman offers a unique perspective on various aspects of life, relationships, parenting, and society. With wit, wisdom, and a touch of humor, her words resonate with audiences worldwide, providing both comfort and inspiration in navigating the complexities of modern existence.
Pamela Druckerman gained widespread acclaim for her best-selling book Bringing Up Bébé, where she explores the cultural differences in parenting between France and the United States. Her work delves into the subtle nuances of raising children, challenging conventional wisdom and offering refreshing insights into effective parenting practices. Beyond parenting, Druckerman’s writing encompasses broader themes of identity, personal growth, and the pursuit of happiness in an ever-changing world.
Below, you’ll find a curated selection of Pamela Druckerman quotes that encapsulate her keen observations and astute reflections on life’s myriad facets. Whether you’re seeking wisdom, humor, or simply a fresh perspective, these quotes are sure to enlighten and inspire.
In the Nineties, there was all this new research into brain development, with evidence saying poor kids fall behind in school because no one is talking to them at home, no one is reading to them. And middle-class parents seized on this research. Pamela Druckerman
Your child probably won’t get into the Ivy League or win a sports scholarship. At age 24, he might be back in his childhood bedroom, in debt, after a mediocre college career. Raise him so that, if that happens, it will still have been worth it. Pamela Druckerman
When we’re in the U.S., my kids instantly start snacking all the time. I don’t know how it happens. There is just more food available all the time. There aren’t all these little different varieties of snack foods in France. Pamela Druckerman
I’m always hoping no one is following me around with a camera. Pamela Druckerman
One of the many problems with parenting is that kids keep changing. Just when you’re used to one stage, they zoom into another. Pamela Druckerman
French children seem to be able to play by themselves in a way. Pamela Druckerman
Just do what you want more often. Don’t be so worried about what other people expect. Pamela Druckerman
Not many foreigners move to Paris for their dream job. Many do it on a romantic whim. Pamela Druckerman
I was scared to say I was in my 40s because at that point, it sounded really old, and to out myself as a middle-aged human – I felt very awkward about it. Pamela Druckerman
Soccer may not explain the world or even contain the world. But it makes the world a slightly happier place. Pamela Druckerman
The French don’t think everyone should have the same bank balance, but they’re offended by extremes of inequality. Pamela Druckerman
There’s this idea in America that you can be whatever you want. That remains an ideal in terms of how you dress too – when you go shopping, you try on all possible selves and then decide. Pamela Druckerman
One of the maddening things about being a foreigner in France is that hardly anyone in the rest of the world knows what’s really happening here. They think Paris is a socialist museum where people are exceptionally good at eating small bits of chocolate and tying scarves. Pamela Druckerman
I’ve got letters from all over the world saying what you’re describing as American parenting is Chilean middle-class parenting, or it is Finnish middle-class parenting, or it is Slovak middle-class parenting. Pamela Druckerman
A lot of French comedy is satire. Pamela Druckerman
Earnestness makes British people gag. Pamela Druckerman
Here’s some news you might find surprising: By and large, the French like Jews. Pamela Druckerman
I guess we’re all supposed to get used to living in a more dangerous world. Pamela Druckerman
In your 40s, you kind of know how things are likely to go, and you’re better at saying, ‘You know what? That just doesn’t suit me…’ I remember thinking in my 30s, ‘I should go to Burning Man. I could be a Burning Man person.’ And in my 40s, I’m like, ‘You know what? I’m never going to go to Burning Man.’ Pamela Druckerman
The whole point of a commencement speech is to say something encouraging. Pamela Druckerman
When I moved to Europe 12 years ago, my biggest concern was whether I’d ever speak decent French. Practically every American I knew came to visit, many saying they dreamed of living here, too. Pamela Druckerman
Where Americans might coo over a child’s most inane remark to boost his confidence, middle-class French parents teach their kids to be concise and amusing, to keep everyone listening. Pamela Druckerman
In the English books, the American kids’ books, typically, there is a problem, the characters grapple with that problem, and the problem is resolved. Pamela Druckerman
Sometimes I just tell my kids, ‘Outside of France, I’m considered completely normal.’ This worked until we traveled to London. Pamela Druckerman
I’ve gotten used to being a foreigner. Pamela Druckerman
Although I wrote a book about infidelity around the world, I ended up concluding that fidelity is quite a good idea. Pamela Druckerman
And as a mother of three with a full-time job, podcasts gave me the illusion of having a vibrant social life. I was constantly ‘meeting’ new people. My favorite hosts started to seem like friends: I could detect small shifts in their moods and tell when they were flirting with guests. Pamela Druckerman
Soon after Donald Trump was inaugurated, I got a letter from France’s interior ministry informing me that I was now French. By the time it arrived, I’d been French for nearly two weeks without even knowing it. Pamela Druckerman
When my mother in Florida mentions that she’s off to play golf, I think: Golf? In the age of Trump? Pamela Druckerman
Babies aren’t savages. Toddlers understand language long before they can talk. Pamela Druckerman
I gradually understood why European mothers aren’t in perpetual panic about their work-life balance and don’t write books about how executive moms should just try harder: Their governments are helping them – and doing it competently. Pamela Druckerman
A large part of the creative process is tolerating the gap between the glorious image you had in your mind and the sad thing you’ve just made. Pamela Druckerman
Having lived in America and France, I’ve been on both sides of the picky-eating divide. Pamela Druckerman
Discrimination was a problem before terrorism. Now, the bad deeds of a few people have made life worse for millions. Pamela Druckerman
Teach your kids emotional intelligence. Help them become more evolved than you are. Explain that, for instance, not everyone will like them. Pamela Druckerman
I think kids in France, and certainly in my household, don’t necessarily stop interrupting when you tell them, but they gradually become more aware of other people, and that means that you can have the expectation of finishing a conversation. Pamela Druckerman
I had applied to become French – or, rather, Franco-American, as I’m now a dual citizen – partly because I could: I’d lived and paid taxes here for long enough. Pamela Druckerman
My family was once invited to lunch at a chateau owned by a friend of a friend. As we drove our rental car up to the giant castle, my kids gasped and said, ‘They must be rich!’ Pamela Druckerman
The main thing my bookcase says about me is that I’m not French. Pamela Druckerman
As an American married to an Englishman and living in France, I’ve spent much of my adult life trying to decode the rules of conversation in three countries. Paradoxically, these rules are almost always unspoken. Pamela Druckerman
It’s fine to discuss money in France, as long as you’re complaining that you don’t have enough, or boasting about getting a bargain. Pamela Druckerman
When my kids correct my cultural missteps, I sometimes suspect that they’re not embarrassed, they’re gleeful. Pamela Druckerman
I think, in writing a memoir, you kind of give order to your life. Pamela Druckerman
Early childhood offerings vary, but everywhere in Europe and in Canada, they’re far more generous than in the United States. Ukrainian dads may not change enough diapers, but their government offers paid maternity leave; practically free preschool; and per-baby payments equivalent to eight months of an average salary. Pamela Druckerman
Childhood and adolescence are nothing but milestones: You grow taller, advance to new grades, and get your period, your driver’s license, and your diploma. Then, in your 20s and 30s, you romance potential partners, find jobs, and learn to support yourself. Pamela Druckerman
Unlike the time sink of binge-watching a TV series, podcasts actually made me more efficient. Practically every dull activity – folding laundry, applying makeup – became tolerable when I did it while listening to a country singer describing his hardscrabble childhood, or a novelist defending her open marriage. Pamela Druckerman
The question on my husband’s birthday is always, What do you get for the man who has nothing? Pamela Druckerman
I don’t like rules, because rules, you have to follow. Pamela Druckerman
We Anglophones have reasons for adopting strange diets. Increasingly, we live alone. We have an unprecedented choice of foods, and we’re not sure what’s in them or whether they’re good for us. And we expect to customize practically everything: parenting, news, medicines, even our own faces. Pamela Druckerman
While I love walking past those beautifully lit bookstores in my neighborhood, what I mostly buy there are blank notebooks and last-minute presents for children’s birthdays. Pamela Druckerman
Optimism – even, and perhaps especially in the face of difficulty – has long been an American hallmark. Pamela Druckerman
Eating among the French certainly affected me. After a few years here, I gave up most of my selective food habits. Pamela Druckerman
I’m speaking in very broad brushstrokes, but in France, there’s generally this idea that you should look like the best version of the age that you are. Pamela Druckerman
I hear people in their 20s describe the 40s as a far-off decade of too-late, when they’ll regret things that they haven’t done. But for older people I meet, the 40s are the decade that they would most like to travel back to. Pamela Druckerman
Around my neighborhood, I’m known as the American who talks to her computer while she types. Pamela Druckerman
Certain woman will be jealous of how skinny you are, no matter what’s causing it. Pamela Druckerman
I’ve never gotten a good idea while checking Twitter or shopping. Pamela Druckerman
When you’re the foreigner and your kids are the natives, they realize you’re clueless much sooner than they ordinarily would. I’m pretty sure mine skipped the Mommy-is-infallible stage entirely. Pamela Druckerman
Before Donald Trump took office, optimism about his presidency was the lowest of any president-elect since at least the 1970s. Pamela Druckerman
Practically every time I speak up at a school conference, a political event, or my apartment building association’s annual meeting, I’m met with a display of someone else’s superior intelligence. Pamela Druckerman
Being an immigrant mother can be hard, but being a poor immigrant mother is much harder. You don’t generally get to sit in cafes polishing your French by reading ‘Le Monde.’ Pamela Druckerman
When I was 41, I had a very bad back pain, and it turned out to be Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Pamela Druckerman
When I tell French parents that I know lots of American kids who will eat only pasta or only white rice, they can’t believe it. I mean, they can understand how the kid left to his own devices might do that, but they can’t imagine that parents would allow that to happen. Pamela Druckerman
There’s an American idea that you want to look as young as you can for as long as you can. If you can be mistaken for a teenager from behind into your 50s, then you’ve won; you’ve succeeded. Pamela Druckerman
The overarching conventional wisdom – what everyone from government experts to my French girlfriends take as articles of faith – is that restrictive diets generally don’t make you healthier or slimmer. Instead, it’s best to eat a variety of high-quality foods in moderation and pay attention to whether you’re hungry. Pamela Druckerman
The French view is really one of balance, I think… What French women would tell me over and over is, it’s very important that no part of your life – not being a mom, not being a worker, not being a wife – overwhelms the other part. Pamela Druckerman
My husband is so upset by President Trump’s scapegoating of immigrants and Muslims, he refuses to even visit the United States. Pamela Druckerman
What you can say, what French parents say to their kids is, ‘You don’t have to eat everything, honey, you just have to taste it.’ And it’s that tasting little by little by little that gets kids more familiar with the food and more comfortable with it and more likely to eat it the next time. Pamela Druckerman
When you’re further along in your career, you probably have more money and more means; you have to stop yourself from giving your child too much. Whereas, if you’re in twenties, you might just get by. Pamela Druckerman
One of the great joys of a creative life is that your observations and loose moments aren’t lost forever; they live in your work. Pamela Druckerman
Every time I pass a cafe, I imagine it being stormed by men with Kalashnikovs. Pamela Druckerman
We’re understandably worried that staring at screens all day, and blogging about our breakfasts, is turning America into a nation of narcissists. But the opposite might be true. Pamela Druckerman
You know you’re in your 40s when you’ve spent 48 hours trying to think of a word, and that word was ‘hemorrhoids.’ Pamela Druckerman
I’m a third-generation Miamian. I’m fond of it. I’m an expatriate, so it’s the only American city I can still legitimately claim. Pamela Druckerman
I spent most of my adolescence feeling awkward but never once mentioned it. Pamela Druckerman
I always knew the French had a penchant for criticism and abstract thought. Usually, that just meant they complained a lot. Pamela Druckerman
French schools follow a national curriculum that includes arduous surveys of French philosophy and literature. Frenchmen then spend the rest of their lives quoting Proust to one another, with hardly anyone else catching the references. Pamela Druckerman
Usually, I’m so self-absorbed that my companion could be bleeding to death, and I might not notice. Pamela Druckerman
Just as dressing well in your forties entails making choices that reflect who you are and not just wearing generic basics, looking good as you get older requires accentuating and enjoying what’s specific to you rather than striving for cookie-cutter perfection. Pamela Druckerman
When people used to ask me what I missed about America, I would say, ‘The optimism.’ I grew up in the land of hope, then moved to one whose catchphrases are ‘It’s not possible’ and ‘Hell is other people.’ I walked around Paris feeling conspicuously chipper. Pamela Druckerman
Parisians won’t admit that they go to the gym, let alone that they’re scared of terrorists. Pamela Druckerman
When I left for college, I put Miami behind me and tried to have a life of the mind. I got a graduate degree. I traveled. I even married a fellow writer, whose only real estate was a dingy one-bedroom apartment in Paris, where we lived. Pamela Druckerman
If you had asked me what I wanted when I was 12 years old, I probably would have said, ‘To marry a plastic surgeon.’ You can hardly blame me: I was growing up in Miami. Pamela Druckerman
It’s refreshing to have some time off from wondering whether I look fat. Pamela Druckerman
The French talk about education, the education of their children. They don’t talk about raising kids. They talk about education. And that has nothing to do with school. It’s this kind of broad description of how you raise children and what you teach them. Pamela Druckerman
Podcasts immersed me in colloquial English and put me back in the American zeitgeist. Pamela Druckerman
Parisiennes rarely walk around wearing the giant diamonds that are de rigueur in certain New York neighborhoods. Pamela Druckerman
Even for natives, French satire is rarely laugh-out-loud funny. Its unspoken punch line is typically that things have gone irrevocably wrong, and the government is to blame. Pamela Druckerman
This idea – that the only way to mend the relationship post-affair is through therapy – is unique to the American script. Pamela Druckerman
Get rid of the idea of kids’ food. Kids can eat whatever adults can eat. You know, there is one dinner, and everyone has the same thing. Pamela Druckerman
Like practically everyone who grew up in Miami, I knew little about its history. We were more worried about mangoes falling on our cars. Pamela Druckerman
I’ve been vacationing in western North Carolina and northern Georgia since I was a kid. I arrive, marvel at the mountains, and put on an unconvincing Southern drawl. Pamela Druckerman
The French aren’t known for being hilarious. When I told Parisians I was interested in French humor, they’d say ‘French what?’ Pamela Druckerman
How hard or easy it is to raise kids, especially while working, is a big part of people’s well-being everywhere. Pamela Druckerman
I’m not an early adopter. I’ll only start wearing new styles of clothing once they’re practically out of date, and I won’t move into a neighborhood until it’s fully saturated with upscale coffee shops. Pamela Druckerman
In my 40s, I expect to finally reap the average-looking girl’s revenge. I’ve entered the stage of life where you don’t need to be beautiful; simply by being well-preserved and not obese, I would now pass for pretty. Pamela Druckerman
I spend much of my free time listening to podcasts of American comedians talking to each other. Pamela Druckerman
Remember that the problem with hyper-parenting isn’t that it’s bad for children; it’s that it’s bad for parents. Pamela Druckerman
If you want to know how old you look, just walk into a French cafe. It’s like a public referendum on your face. Pamela Druckerman
America’s parenting customs can shock foreigners. Pamela Druckerman